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2016

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Bruce Fisher , Robert Alberti

Publié par
New Harbinger Publications

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330

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2016

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 novembre 2016

Nombre de lectures

EAN13

9781626258259

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

9 Mo

In print for thirty-five years, Rebuilding is the number one trusted resource on divorce recovery. Now, this classic self-help book is available in an updated fourth edition, featuring a new introduction by coauthor Robert Alberti.

If you are going through a painful breakup or divorce, you may feel like the life you once knew is crashing down around you. You need help to gather the pieces and “rebuild” yourself from the ground up. Rebuilding features Bruce Fisher’s “divorce process rebuilding blocks,” a proven-effective, nineteen-step process for putting one’s life back together after divorce.

Now the most widely-used approach to divorce recovery, the “rebuilding” model makes the process healthier and less traumatic for those who are divorcing or divorced—and their children. Over two decades of research and practice are combined with feedback from hundreds of thousands of men and women who have used the book on their own, or in one of thousands of Fisher divorce recovery seminars worldwide.

This book also includes Fisher’s detailed Healing Separation model—the first of its kind to offer couples a healing alternative to the usual slide from separation to divorce. This fourth edition, revised with the assistance of psychologist and marriage and family therapist Robert Alberti, continues Bruce’s tradition of straight-to-the-heart response to the needs of his clients and readers.

If you’ve been struggling to rebuild your life after a divorce, this book offers just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and kick-in-the-pants self-help!

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 novembre 2016

Nombre de lectures

EAN13

9781626258259

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

9 Mo

“One of the best books written for the divorcing person…warm, engaging.” —theBehavior Therapist

“Deals with the everyday feelings and problems of the divorcing and divorced…hits just the right balance between seriousness and optimism.”

—FlorenceKaslow, PhD,Journal of Marital and Family Therapy

“A handbook for the divorcing and divorced that is authentic and which they can employ in the rebuilding of their own lives.”

—EstherOshiverFisher, JD,Journal of Divorce

“Warm, simple, and direct…this is a book you will not want to put down.”

—..E.RAsesPr

“I found the book comforting, helpful, and realistic—it is going to hurt, and it will not be easy, but you can do it.”

—MarilynAnitaDalrymple,Affaire de Coeur

“If you’re putting your life back together after a divorce, you need this book! It could be just what you’re looking for to help you get your life back on track. I found it to be very interesting and informative.”

—JeanetteWright,Borger NewsHerald

“Shows you how to move from denial to freedom and even another love.”

—JannMitchell,The Sunday Oregonian

“Exactly what you need to help put your life back together during and after a divorce.”

—creiDovagaMeniz

“Fisher and Alberti accompany you on your journey of recovery as they teach you in plain English how to move forward after the ending of an impor tant love relationship. They are like Sherpas guiding you through the difficult mountain passes and over the perilous ravines. With kindness and optimism, they help you find your way.”

—JeffZimmerman, PhD, ABPP, psychologist and coauthor of Adult Children of DivorceandThe CoParenting Survival Guide

“If you’re suffering following a divorce or breakup, this outstanding book should be at the top of your reading list!Rebuildingcombines compassionate insights with practical suggestions for finding healing.”

—MarkS. Rye, PhD, professor of psychology at Skidmore College, and coauthor ofThe Divorce Recovery Workbook

Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends

FOURTH EDITION

Bruce Fisher, EdD Robert Alberti, PhD

Impact Publishers, Inc.

Publisher’s Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Cover design by Amy Shoup

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data on file

This book is dedicated to…

… the thousands of people who, while I was attempting to teach them in the rebuilding classes, taught me much of what I’ve written in this book;

… my children, Rob, Todd, and Sheila, who often, through their love, gave me more reality, feedback, and truth than I was ready to hear;

… my parents, Bill and Vera, because the more I understand life, families, and myself, the more I appreciate the gifts of life and love they gave me; and

… my wife, Nina, who, with her love, often gave me what I needed instead of what I wanted.

Finally, a word of thanks to my coauthor, editor, and publisher, Bob Alberti, who helped it turn out the way I wanted it to.

—Bruce Fisher (1931–1998)

… my parents, Carita and Sam, who showed me—long before I had any formal training in psychology—that divorce, while painful, can be a growth experience for adults and children, and that we all can be healthier and happier at the end of the day; and

… Bruce, who showed us all how to make that happen.

—Bob Alberti

Contents

Acknowledgments

Foreword by Virginia M. Satir

Introduction to the Fourth Edition

1The Rebuilding Blocks

2Denial“I Can’t Believe This Is Happening to Me!”

3Fear“I Have Lots of It!”

4Adaptation“But It Worked When I Was a Kid!”

5Loneliness“I’ve Never Felt So Alone”

6Friendship“Where Has Everybody Gone?”

7Guilt/RejectionDumpers: 1; Dumpees: 0

8Grief“There’s This Terrible Feeling of Loss”

9Anger“Damn the S.O.B.!”

10Letting GoDisentangling Is Hard to Do

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Self-Worth“Maybe I’m Not So Bad After All!”

12Transition“I’m Waking Up and Putting Away My Leftovers”

13Openness“I’ve Been Hiding Behind a Mask”

14Love“Could Somebody Really Care for Me?”

15Trust“My Love Wound Is Beginning to Heal”

16Relatedness“Growing Relationships Help Me Rebuild”

17Sexuality“I’m Interested, but I’m Scared”

18Singleness“You Mean It’s Okay?’

19Purpose“I Have Goals for the Future Now”

20FreedomFrom Chrysalis to Butterfly

Appendix A: Kids Are Tougher Than You ThinkThe Rebuilding Blocks Process for Children

Appendix B: The Healing SeparationAn Alternative to Divorce

Appendix C: Contract for a Healing Separation

AppendixD:RebuildingBlocksforWidowsand Widowers

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Acknowledgments

his fourth edition ofRebuildingis the first for which I am no longer T the “editor and publisher.” My excellent team at New Harbinger Publications—copy editor Cindy Nixon, editorial manager Clancy Drake, and acquisitions manager Tesilya Hanauer—have made the transition from “editor” to “edited” much easier and more pleasant than I would have imagined. They showed me just how much we could improve the book after three successful editions and over a million copies. I, along with you readers of this edition, owe them many thanks!

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