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The Essential Survival Manual for Growing Up Jewish!
What does it mean to become a Jewish woman?
Did you ever think that Judaism had any advice on how to deal with pressure from your friends? Arguing with your parents? Feeling stressed out? Well, this book shows you that Judaism can help you deal with all these things—and a whole lot more.
The JGirl's Guide is a first-of-its-kind book of practical, real-world advice using Judaism as a compass for the journey through adolescence. A fun survival guide for coming of age, it explores the wisdom and experiences of rabbis, athletes, writers, scholars, musicians and great Jewish thinkers, as well as lots of girls just like you—girls who share your worries and concerns, and your joys.
Here’s a place to turn to for honest, helpful discussion about the things that really matter to you:
• Friendship • Eating • Health • Sexuality • Getting involved • Dealing with authority • Coping with stress • Self-esteem • Communication • Jewish Identity
Now’s the time when you are thinking: Who am I? What do I believe in? Who will I become? The JGirl’s Guide provides Jewish writings, traditions and advice that can help.
PREFACE
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
INTRODUCTION: I'm a Jewish girl and so I’ll become a Jewish woman—is there any more to it than that?
1. BEING A FRIEND: I love my friends, but it’s hard to be a really good friend.
2. BEING A DAUGHTER: I love my parents, but do I need to honor them, too?
3. EATING: I like to eat, but I think about food a lot.
4. RESTING: I like to be active, but I am really stressed!
5. FEELING GOOD ABOUT MY BODY: I feel healthy most of the time, but sometimes I don’t take care of myself.
6. LIKING MYSELF: I want to fit in, but I want to be true to myself.
7. BECOMING A WOMAN: I am curious about sexuality, but I am scared about it, too.
9. GETTING INVOLVED: I want to make the world a better place, but there are just too many problems.
10. BECOMING MYSELF: I am Jewish, but is this how I want to identify myself?
GLOSSARY
ABOUT THE JEWISH RELIGIOUS MOVEMENTS
FOR MORE INFORMATION ...
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T his book is about your journey to become a young Jewish woman who is strong in mind, body, and spirit.
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The Young Jewish Woman s Handbook for Coming of Age
Penina Adelman, Ali Feldman and Shulamit Reinharz
JEWISH LIGHTS Publishing
Woodstock,Vermont
The JGirl s Guide:
The Young Jewish Woman s Handbook for Coming of Age
2005 First Printing
2005 by Penina Adelman, Ali Feldman, and Shulamit Reinharz
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Grateful acknowledgment is given for permission to reprint from the following sources: Kadya Molodowsky, from Women-Poems and The Sabbath Song in Paper Bridges , ed. and trans. Kathryn Hellerstein (Detroit: Wayne State University Press, 1999), pages 79, 81, 453, and 455. Dvora Weisberg, The Study of Torah as a Religious Act and Itka Frajman Zygmuntowicz, Survival and Memory, in Four Centuries of Jewish Women s Spirituality , ed. Ellen Umansky and Dianne Ashton (Boston: Beacon Press, 1992), pages 276-278 and 222. 1992 by Ellen M. Umansky and Dianne Ashton. Reprinted by permission from A Spiritual Life by Merle Feld, the State University of New York Press. 1999 the State University of New York Press. All rights reserved. The Chicago Historical Society, for permission to reprint materials from the Emily Frankenstein papers [manuscript], 1915-1920. Rachel Shnider, for material from Celebrating Our Cycles: A Jewish Woman s Introduction to Menstruation and Womanhood, unpublished manuscript; and Rachel Shnider, How I Feel about Sex and Sexuality. 2002 by Rachel Shnider. Letter to the Front, reprinted by permission of International Creative Management, Inc. 1978 by Muriel Rukeyser.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Adelman, Penina V. (Penina Villenchik)
The Jgirl s guide: the young Jewish woman s handbook for coming of age / Penina Adelman, Ali Feldman, and Shulamit Reinharz.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 1-58023-215-9 (pbk.)
1. Jewish girls-Conduct of life-Juvenile literature. 2. Jewish girls-Religious life-Juvenile literature. 3. Coming of age-Juvenile literature. I. Feldman, Ali. II. Reinharz, Shulamit. III. Title.
BM727.A33 2005
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Manufactured in the United States of America
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CONTENTS
P REFACE
A CKNOWLEDGMENTS
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I NTRODUCTION : I m a Jewish girl and so I ll become a Jewish woman-is there any more to it than that?
Welcome Coming of Age What s a Mitzvah? A Royal Daughter, A JGirl A Few Historical Basics How This Book Works Language Activities Resources Ahavat Israel (Love of the People Israel)
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B EING A F RIEND : I love my friends, but it s hard to be a really good friend.
Mitzvot: Ve ahavta l reyakha kamokha (love your neighbor as yourself); Brit (covenant); G milut chasadim (acts of lovingkindness); T shuvah (repentance)
What Are Friends? Who Is Your Friend? Random Acts of Chesed Problems with Friends What Are the Arguments About? Resolving Arguments Cliques
2
B EING A D AUGHTER : I love my parents, but do I need to honor them, too?
Mitzvah: Kibud av va em (honoring father and mother)
The Fifth Commandment Jewish Mothers Parents Today Ways I Can Honor My Parents Things Your Parents Do for You Getting to Know Your Parents Improving Your Relationship with Your Parents When Honoring Parents is a Problem
3
E ATING : I like to eat, but I think about food a lot .
Mitzvot: Ma akhil re eyvim (feeding the hungry); Hakhnasat orchim (inviting guests); Kashrut (sanctifying food)
Jewish Food Holidays and the Foods They re Associated With The Forbidden Fruit Manna from Heaven Appreciating Food Sharing Food What Is Kashrut? Points for Kashrut Blessings Eating Disorders
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R ESTING : I like to be active, but I am really stressed!
Mitzvah: Shmirat Shabbat (observance of a day of rest)
Preparation for Shabbat Ten Tips to Prepare for Shabbat Bringing Shabbat into Your Space Lighting Shabbat Candles Experiences of Shabbat At the Shabbat Table FAQs about Shabbat Synagogue Services Shabbat Sleepovers Seudah Shlishit Havdalah Make Your Own Braided Havdalah Candle One Step Further
5
F EELING G OOD ABOUT M Y B ODY : I feel healthy most of the time, but sometimes I don t take care of myself.
Mitzvot: Shutafey l ma aseh bereishit (partners in creation); Betzelem Elohim (in the image of God)
Your Health-Partners in Creation In the Image of God Treat Your Body with Honor and Respect Ways You Can Make Positive Changes in Your Life Drugs, Alcohol, and Jews: What s the Deal?
6
L IKING M YSELF : I want to fit in, but I want to be true to myself.
Mitzvah: Tzniut (dignity through modesty)
Inner Beauty Body Image 10 Things You Love about Yourself Inner and Outer Selves
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B ECOMING A W OMAN : I am curious about sexuality, but I am scared about it, too.
Mitzvot: K doshim tihyu (you shall be holy); Kol k vodah bat melekh p nimah (the true majesty of a royal daughter is inside her)
Growing Up Inside and Outside Celebrating Your Period Love and Sex Sexual Safety
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T HINKING BEFORE I S PEAK : I need to say what I feel and think, but I may be hurting people when I do .
Mitzvah: Shmirat halashon (guarding the tongue)
Guarding Your Tongue Lashon Hara How to Combat Lashon Hara The Consequences of Gossip Silence
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G ETTING I NVOLVED : I want to make the world a better place, but there are just too many problems.
Mitzvot: Tikkun olam (repairing the world); Kol Israel areivim zeh lazeh (all of Israel are responsible for one another)
Make a Difference Putting the World Back Together Volunteering Jewish Women Who Are Changing the World
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B ECOMING M YSELF : I am Jewish, but is this how I want to identify myself?
Mitzvot: Bat mitzvah (becoming a Jewish woman); Talmud Torah (Torah study)
Identifying Yourself What Makes You Happy to Be a Jew? Bat Mitzvah Women and Torah Study Studying Torah
G LOSSARY
A BOUT THE J EWISH R ELIGIOUS M OVEMENTS
F OR M ORE I NFORMATION
N OTES
About Jewish Lights
Copyright
PREFACE
I am a professor, a daughter, a mother, a sister, a wife, an aunt, a friend, and many other things. I m also a JGirl-and probably you are, too. You can be a JGirl as soon as you re born and stay at it your whole life. You can become a JGirl later. Everybody s story is different.
Being a JGirl means thinking about the fact that you are Jewish and wanting to find out more about other Jews. It means getting excited when you discover that a competitor at the Olympics is a young Jewish person and wondering how she lives her life. It means wanting to look up the Jewish community if you travel to another country. It means reading the newspaper with a special eye for what is going on in Israel or Jewish communities in other countries.
The JGirl s Guide is for girls who have always been JGirls and for those who want to become JGirls. It s for learning what it takes to become one. It s written with you in mind.
I started on my JGirl path from the minute I was born in a Catholic hospital in Amsterdam, Holland. Both my parents had escaped from Germany as teenagers when the Nazis gained power. They thought they would be safe in Holland, but after they arrived there, the Nazis invaded that country as well. My parents (who were actually only boyfriend and girlfriend at the time) decided to hide rather than give up, just like Anne Frank did with her family. Unlike Anne Frank, however, the people who would become my parents were never caught. Thus, when the war was finally over and the Jews could come out of their hiding places, my parents married, and nine months later I was born. With a history like that and with my parents giving me a Hebrew name-Shulamit-I was off and running as a JGirl.
Later, when we moved to the United States, I started going to public school during the day and Hebrew school on two afternoons and Sunday mornings. Unlike some kids, I loved it. It was great to learn a new language and be able to be a leader in Junior Congregation. Each time we participated in Junior Congregation, a star was put on a chart. I was pretty ambitious and loved getting those stars.
Then one day I turned 12 and it was time to start preparing for my bat mitzvah. Life was very different then from the way it is now. I sat with a teacher who gave me a phonograph recording (not even a tape and certainly not a CD) to learn my Haftarah. That was pretty much my entire training. Girls didn t do as much for their bat mitzvah ceremonies in the 1950s, when I had mine, as they do now. In those days, many girls didn t even become bat mitzvah at all.
During the summer in which I turned 12, my mother, baby brother, and I traveled to Israel to visit relatives and see the country. By ship it took two weeks to get there and two weeks to get back-with lots of seasickness along the way. I returned from Israel a very enthusiastic JGirl. Israel was 10 years old, and I was 12. I had lots of adventures in the moshav (rural town) I visited, including riding horses, building and sitting around campfires, and hanging out with Israeli kids. I loved everything Israeli. So when the mov
