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Date de parution
01 mai 2005
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9781441233264
Langue
English
Publié par
Date de parution
01 mai 2005
Nombre de lectures
0
EAN13
9781441233264
Langue
English
Single Servings
2005 by Lee Warren
Published by Revell a division of Baker Publishing Group P.O. Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287 www.revellbooks.com
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To Mom, for believing in me.
To Dad, for listening to me.
To Phil Kayser, for preparing me.
To Joy, for believing in my writing before I did.
To Vicki, for helping me clarify my message.
To my friends, for cheering me on.
Contents
Part 1 Community
1. The Need for Others
2. Finding Community
3. Wedding Depression
4. Knowing Your Neighbors
5. All I Had Was God
6. Single and Forgotten
7. A Long Drive
8. The God Who Never Fails
9. Spurring Each Other On
10. The Soothing Sound of a Gentle Whisper
Part 2 Completeness
11. Five Marriages Later
12. The Perfect Spouse
13. Our Unknown God
14. The Company Picnic Blues
15. One in Christ Jesus
16. God-Given Satisfaction
17. The Satisfaction of Spiritual Maturity
18. He Loved the Unlovely
19. Guilty of the Unthinkable
20. In God s Likeness
Part 3 Emotional Health
21. Sticks and Stones Are Nothing Compared to Words
22. Just the Way You Are
23. Daddy s Gone
24. Recovering from Bad Choices
25. Run to the Refuge
26. The Good Ol Days
27. Trusting God for Employment
28. No More Grudges
29. From a Curse to a Blessing
30. A Higher Standard
Part 4 Physical Desires
31. Out with the Old, In with the New
32. Longing Eyes, Running Legs
33. First Kisses, No Second Guesses
34. Quick! Where s the Escape Hatch?
35. The Power to Endure
36. Starving the Flesh Dog
37. The Ripple Effect of Sexual Impurity
38. A Covenant with My Eyes
39. For God s Glory
40. Our Spiritual Act of Worship
Part 5 Longing for Love
41. God s Road
42. Eyes for Another God
43. The Bigger Picture
44. Delight Yourself in the Lord
45. What Drives Your Longing?
46. Civilian Affairs
47. Staying the Course
48. Panting for God s Commands
49. False Satisfaction
50. Let Nothing Move You
Part 6 God s Timing
51. Finding Love in a Harvest Field
52. Compelled to Action?
53. No Unfinished Packages
54. Our Timing Stinks
55. Preparing to Go
56. In God s Perfect Timing
57. Time to Move?
58. Not Now
59. When It Is Not Our Time
60. On Being a Chicken
Part 7 No Fair!
61. A Healthy Dose of Fear
62. The Lord Is Our Portion
63. The Demands of Our Sin Nature
64. Why Those Twelve?
65. Promotion Comes from God
66. I Am Supposed to Get Married First!
67. God s Things, God s Way
68. Why Can t I Look Like That?
69. I Have No Answer
70. Whatever Pleases Him
Part 8 Expectations
71. Death Leads to Life
72. Our Expectations versus God s Plan
73. The Problem with Expectations
74. God s Ways Bring Fulfillment
75. Good Expectations
76. My Expectation Is from Him
77. Eating with Unwashed Hands
78. Parental Pressure
79. Dealing with Stumbling Blocks
80. A Friend on a Mission
Part 9 Embracing Life
81. Do What Your Hand Finds to Do
82. Embracing Time Alone
83. Joy in Service
84. Celebrating Valentine s Day as a Single
85. Planning Financially for the Future
86. Gathering for the Harvest
87. Your Life Has Already Begun
88. Postcard Hospitality
89. The Freedom to Go
90. I Like Being Single
Notes
Part 1 Community
H ave you ever experienced the loneliness of a solitary Saturday night? Anything you do-from renting a movie to reading a good book-seems to magnify your feelings. Nobody is there to laugh with you during the comical parts of the movie. Nobody is there to listen to you read a passage from a book that moved you.
We all desire to connect with other people-to be loved, to share in the lives of others, and to have others share in our lives. God made us relational beings. To function properly, we need to be in right relationship not only with him but also with each other.
The problem is, our security-conscious, privacy-guarded, fast-paced society doesn t allow us to expand our community easily. We often don t know our next-door neighbor s name, let alone the rest of the people who live in our neighborhood. We ve isolated ourselves by design.
In our seclusion, pangs of loneliness shoot through our souls, demanding that we search for someone who cares about us. Those pangs can hurt, but they are not inherently bad. They tell us that we need community-both with God and with other humans. The pangs remind us that we ve spent too much time by ourselves.
For singles, the danger is thinking that the only way to get past this sense of loneliness is to find a potential spouse. However, the Bible points us to other resources: to family, friends, and the body of Christ-community.
In her book Feast of Life , Jo Kadlecek defines community: Community . . . is a coming together, a joining with other flesh and blood that all humans in all cultures in all times of history have found critical for their very existence. It is not merely coexisting beside another person, with no interaction or relation. [ 1 ]
For the next ten days, let s explore what biblical community looks like so that the next time feelings of loneliness threaten to overwhelm us, we ll be equipped from the Scriptures to handle them.
1 The Need for Others
The L ORD God said, It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.
Genesis 2:18
C armen s first Christmas as a single mother was incredibly difficult. Happy couples were everywhere-at church, shopping malls, and every party she attended. As the holidays loomed ever nearer, with increasing dread she faced the thought of being alone.
Carmen s struggle with loneliness isn t uncommon for single people.
Singles know Genesis 2:18 well, don t we? We read it, nod our heads in agreement, and ask, Where is my helper? and If it is not good for man to be alone, then why am I? However, Adam s situation was different from our own because he was the only human being on the planet at the time. He was literally alone .
That s not something that we have to experience today. The world is full of people who want contact with others. Sometimes singles think that the only way we can overcome loneliness is to find a spouse. Instead, we should realize that people all around us are seeking connection with someone. While it is certainly possible to feel alone in a crowd, we wouldn t if we were more willing to turn to someone in the crowd and interact.
Churches and many civic groups offer chances to interact with people. Every church I ve ever been involved with offers Bible studies and fellowship opportunities. Hospitals, nursing homes, and prisons are full of people who would love to have someone to talk to on a regular basis.
Here s what Carmen did: My solution was to reach out to other single-parent families and invite them to my home for an open house. Families were invited to stop by between one and five o clock on Christmas Day and bring something to share. What a great day! People came early and stayed late.
Carmen didn t wait to find a community; she created one.
D IGGING D EEPER INTO G ENESIS 2:18
1. List two or three groups or organizations you ve considered joining.
2. How often do you initiate conversations with strangers?
3. What barriers do you experience to starting a conversation?
4. Next time you are at a mall or party or anywhere that brings people together, watch how people interact. Find one person who seems relaxed talking with strangers and identify the things he or she says.
5. Name one thing you can do to meet your need for community that would also meet the needs of other singles for community.
2 Finding Community
God sets the lonely in families.
Psalm 68:6
K ing David knew something about loneliness when he wrote this psalm. In his youth, he was a shepherd. No doubt he spent countless hours in the field without any human contact. Then, after God chose him to be king of Israel, David spent a lot of time on the run from King Saul, who wanted to kill him.
Yet God was at work in David s life long before he first hid from King Saul. After David slew Goliath, King Saul wanted to speak with the young shepherd. When their conversation ended, King Saul s son, Jonathan, became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself (1 Sam. 18:1). God created a close bond between David and Jonathan that David would rely upon again and again.
Even though David had a family, they wouldn t be able to help him during his loneliest times while hiding from the king. But in God s providence, Jonathan knew King Saul s every move, because he lived with him, and consequent
