Redeeming Power , livre ebook

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Endorsements
“With the clear-eyed assessment of Jeremiah and the courage of Esther, Langberg looks leaders square in the eye and tells the unflinching truth about power. This is difficult truth that every leader needs to know but most work hard to avoid. Her relentless pursuit of protecting the powerless is supported by her decades of listening for God’s voice amid victims’ pain, as well as that of the perpetrators, some of whom don’t realize the damage their words and actions produce. For all who hunger for healing and yearn to know how power can be both abused and properly used, this book is for you.”
— Robert L. Briggs , president and CEO, American Bible Society
“With immeasurable insight and grace, Redeeming Power exhorts people, institutions, and nations to wake up, repent, and seek the kingdom of God by looking critically at the imbalances and injustices we have allowed to flourish. If there was ever a time we needed to receive this challenging, life-saving word, it’s now. Thank God for choosing Diane to profess it!”
— Jeanne L. Allert , founder and executive director, The Samaritan Women
“This book broke my heart, instructed my soul, and pointed me to the most powerful King-Servant-Healer, who lovingly humbled himself to overcome evil with good. This is an anointed book, reflecting theological sensitivity and egregious life experiences, calling us to steward and reclaim power for its original purpose: human flourishing.”
— Ronald A. Matthews , president, Eastern University
“Every now and then you come across a resource that you passionately want to recommend to others because you know its contents are that essential and valuable. Redeeming Power is one of those resources. Langberg helps us see and understand the truths we so often miss, ignore, or explain away because they are shrouded in much deception of self and others. Redeeming Power is a ray of light streaming through systems and hearts darkened by the abuse of authority. Those who read will discover truths that can reveal, free, and heal.”
— Wade Mullen , Capital Seminary & Graduate School; author of Something’ s Not Right: Decoding the Hidden Tactics of Abuse— and Freeing Yourself from Its Power
“Langberg has done us all an excellent service with this book. There is currently a desperate need within the church to better understand power dynamics. The cost of the church not fully grasping what power is and how it is appropriately stewarded is too high. I see this regularly as I care for those who have endured both spiritual abuse and racial trauma within the church. This book is profound yet accessible and carries with it the potential to inform and heal. I commend it wholeheartedly to all.”
— Kyle J. Howard , Soul Care Provider, Lighting a Path, Inc.
“The most difficult aspect of my profession is seeing the pain and suffering that people can inflict on each other, especially in church and family environments that should be safe and protective. Dr. Langberg has spent decades understanding what the process of healing from personal and systemic trauma looks like. Her book is required reading for anyone who seeks substantial training in helping victims of emotional, sexual, physical, and racial trauma.”
— Michael R. Lyles, MD , psychiatrist, speaker, and visiting lecturer
“In this weighty and timely book, Dr. Langberg addresses a topic that too often goes ignored or even dismissed: power. As human beings, we have been given power and that power can be used to serve or to oppress. You will need to read this book with a highlighter and a box of tissues nearby. As a tender and experienced therapist, Langberg writes a book that painfully reveals even as it lovingly heals.”
— Jemar Tisb y, New York Times bestselling author of The Color of Compromise
“No stodgy academic language here—Langberg is a woman on fire , and in a manner worthy of the prophets before her, she delivers a call for justice on behalf of those deeply wounded by power wielded in ungodly ways. This book is packed with biblical truths, insight, wisdom, conviction, and instruction for those who have eyes to see and ears to hear.”
— Kay Warren , co-founder, Saddleback Church
Title Page
Copyright Page
© 2020 by Diane Langberg
Published by Brazos Press
a division of Baker Publishing Group
PO Box 6287, Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
www.brazospress.com
Ebook edition created 2020
Ebook corrections 04.22.2021
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Dedication
With love and gratitude to my father, William F. Mandt , my father-in-law, Simon Langberg , my husband, Ronald Langberg , and our sons, Joshua and Daniel Langberg ,
extraordinary men, each distinguished for using their power with endless kindness and impeccable integrity
Contents
Cover i
Endorsements ii
Title Page iii
Copyright Page iv
Dedication v
Prelude ix
Part 1: Power Defined 1
1. The Source and Purpose of Power 3
2. Vulnerability and Power 19
3. The Role of Deception in the Abuse of Power 29
4. The Power of Culture and the Influence of Words 45
Part 2: Power Abused 59
5. Understanding Abuse of Power 61
6. Power in Human Systems 75
7. Power between Men and Women 91
8. The Intersection of Race and Power 107
9. Power Abused in the Church 123
10. Christendom Seduced by Power 145
Part 3: Power Redeemed 159
11. Redemptive Power and the Person of Christ 161
12. Healing Power and the Body of Christ 173
Postlude 193
Acknowledgments 201
Notes 203
Author Bio 209
Back Cover 211
Prelude
Decades ago, when I first encountered victims of sexual abuse, I found myself in a foreign land. I did not know such things happened. It was not part of my experience, nor was it mentioned once in the psychological literature I read or while I earned two graduate degrees. The church dismissed me when I brought it up. I decided, by God’s grace, to listen to the unbelieved and disenfranchised. Doing so has changed me and shaped my life.
My learning curve over the past forty-seven years as a Christian psychologist has been steep and long. I first learned about families in which sexual and domestic abuse were rampant and had been for generations. I have since sat with victims of trauma, violence, rape, and war. I have learned about people groups who have been crushed, oppressed, and enslaved. I have borne witness to this devastation in my Pennsylvania office and across six continents. I have listened to voices from Auschwitz, Rwanda, South Africa, Congo, and Cambodia while visiting death camps, churches full of bones, places of unspeakable poverty, victims of violent rape, and the Killing Fields, where human beings were destroyed just because they were who God created them to be.
I have also seen beauty, redemption, courage, and generosity, and I have been blessed beyond words by many who have been trashed by this world and its inhabitants. I have passed on those blessings to my children and grandchildren, to colleagues, clients, diverse audiences, and the global church.
My journey into the world of trauma began with one victim of abuse who, in tiny increments, courageously shared her story with me. I asked questions and worked hard to listen carefully. I became her student and a student of many more—humans created by God, his own artwork, wounded and damaged. I sat with people and learned to say, in essence, “Teach me what it is like to be you.” Somewhere along the way, the context of abuse broadened to include experiences at Christian camps, at schools, and in sports. I learned that boys and men were also abused.
I also worked with pastors, missionaries, and Christian leaders. They were depressed and anxious. They struggled with their roles and with the burdens of others. Many were burned out. And then one day everything collided as I began to realize that Christians in leadership positions were al