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Pat Harvey , Jeanine Penzo

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02 novembre 2009

Nombre de lectures

EAN13

9781572248854

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

2 Mo

Temper tantrums in the supermarket. Tears that seem to come out of nowhere. Battles over homework that are more like wars. When your child has problems regulating his or her emotions, there''s no hiding it. Children with intense emotions go from 0 to 100 in seconds and are prone to frequent emotional and behavioral outbursts that leave parents feeling bewildered and helpless.

Other parents may have told you that it''s just a phase or that your child needs discipline. In reality, your child may have emotion dysregulation, a tendency to react intensely to situations other children take in stride. Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions is an effective guide to de-escalating your child''s emotions and helping your child express feelings in productive ways. You''ll learn strategies drawn from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), including mindfulness and validation skills, and practice them when your child''s emotions spin out of control. This well-researched method for managing emotions can help your child make dramatic emotional and behavioral changes that both of you will be proud of.

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

02 novembre 2009

Nombre de lectures

EAN13

9781572248854

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

2 Mo

Popular psychology Philosophie et théologie

“Parents and oter prîmary caregîvers raîsîng cîdren wît întense emo-tîons wî beneIt rom tîs book, wîc îs te resut o a unîque coabora-tîon between a seasoned cînîcîan and te parent o a cîd wît emotîon dysreguatîon. Parents wî earn crîtîca skîs and strategîes and receîve practîca advîce on ow to ep teîr cîdren. As tese parents acquîre new skîs and earn to ook at teîr caenges în a dîferent way, tey wî become more efectîve and wîtness posîtîve resuts. Utîmatey, tey wî ee better about teîr îves.”

—Ceîa Serkîn, executîve dîrector o te Montgomery County Federatîon o Famîîes or Cîdren’s Menta Heat

“ïntensey emotîona cîdren engage în beavîor tat îs întensey tryîng to parents. ïn tîs împortant work, Pat Harvey and Jeanîne Penzo ave pro-vîded bot a rame o reerence by wîc to understand te basîs o tose emotîons and beavîors în cîdren and a treasure trove o practîca înter-ventîons tat equîp parents to respond în epu and constructîve ways. hîs împortant work wî prove învauabe or parents and or cînîcîans workîng wît parents, cîdren, and amîîes.”

—Robert Cîottone, P.D., ABPP, proessor o psycoogy at Cark Unîversîty and adjunct acuty at Unîversîty o Massacusetts Medîca Scoo

“Parentîng a Cîld Wo Has ïntense EmotîonsIs a voîd ong et by parents and proessîonas wo îve and work wît cîdren wo are oten descrîbed as overreactîve. he autors break down îgy carged înteractîons în tougtu, useu ways tat expaîn ow parents can deuse te most întense scenarîos. he outîned skîs serve to assîst parents, educators, and a wo work wît cîdren în everyday înteractîons tat may become unpredîctabe wîtout notîce. hîs book eps everyone take a deep breat.”

—Jî G. Aubry, ormer specîa educator and scoo dîrector at Fas Curc Cîty, VA pubîc scoos

“hîs book wî be an exceent resource or parents and oter caregîvers o cîdren and adoescents wît menta eat îssues and caengîng beav-îors. ï tînk ît wî be on many a parent’s bedsîde tabe.”

—Emîy Novîck, MPP, cîd and adoescent program coordînator at te Natîona Aîance on Menta ïness, Montgomery County

“Harvey and Penzo ave wrîtten a book tat îs Irst and oremost a guîde to understandîng and deveopîng specîIc strategîes or addressîng teîr cîd’s întense emotîons. hat te book attends to te deep eeîngs tat parents temseves experîence aong te journey to emotîona and beavîora stabî-îty sets ît apart rom oter books în tîs genre.Parentîng a Cîld Wo Has ïntense Emotîonstakes te parent step-by-step troug a process o eaîng and growîng tat wî resonate îmmedîatey wît tose wo ave strugged to provîde wat teîr cîdren need. Parents wî ee better or avîng read tîs book, as ît wî aow tem to address tîngs tat ave been troube-some or years.”

—Terry Landon, LïCSW, cînîcîan/consutant wît Wedîko Cîdren’s Servîces

“hîs book provîdes communîcatîon skîs and strategîes tat are easy or parents to use wît a types o cîdren. Wonderu to ave as a resource to ep raîse a appîer cîd.”

—Gîna Saw, RN

“Our cîd’s îgy emotîona beavîors reay straîned our marrîage. We dîd not know ow to cange our amîy dynamîc and break te cyce o paîn and rustratîon. Harvey and Penzo gave us a quîntessentîa bîbe o prîncîpes and tecnîques tat dramatîcay canged ow we a înteracted. ït îs a must-read în order to ep you and your cîd be more efectîve.”

—Mînna and Robert Goden

Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions

Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Help Your Child Regulate Emotional Outbursts & Aggressive Behaviors

PAT HARVEY, LCSWC JEANINE A. PENZO, LICSW

New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Pubîser’s Note hîs publîcatîon îs desîgned to provîde accurate and autorîtatîve înformatîon în regard to te subject matter covered. ït îs sold wît te understandîng tat te publîser îs not engaged în renderîng psycologîcal, Inancîal, legal, or oter professîonal servîces. ïf expert assîstance or counselîng îs needed, te servîces of a competent professîonal sould be sougt.

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Acquîred by Tesîya Hanauer; Cover desîgn by Amy Soup; Edîted by Caroe Honeycurc; Text desîgn by Tracy Marîe Carson

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Harvey, Pat. Parentîng a cîd wo as întense emotîons : dîaectîca beavîor terapy skîs to ep your cîd reguate emotîona outbursts and aggressîve beavîors / Pat Harvey and Jeanîne A. Penzo. p. cm. ïncudes bîbîograpîca reerences. ïSBN-13: 978-1-57224-649-2 (pbk. : ak. paper) ïSBN-10: 1-57224-649-9 (pbk. : ak. paper) 1. Emotîona probems o cîdren. 2.Beavîor dîsorders în cîdren. 3. Cîd psycoterapy--Parent partîcîpatîon. 4. Cîd rearîng. ï. Penzo, Jeanîne A. ïï. Tîte. BF723.E598H37 2009 649’.154--dc22 2009023489

To Danîee, For brîngîng us togeter as rîends and coeagues. Your perseverance agaînst îe’s caenges îs an înspîratîon to us a. —JP and PH

To a te parents wo trusted me wît teîr storîes: your courage, însîgts, and wîîngness to earn taugt me more tan you can îmagîne —PH

Contents

Acknowledgments. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . vii

Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

PART 1 You, Your Child, and Emotional Intensity

CHAPTER 1 Emotional Intensity and Your Child’s Feelings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9

CHAPTER 2 Effective Parenting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31

PART 2 Responding to Your Child’s Feelings

CHAPTER 3 Understanding What Your Child Is Telling You. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65

CHAPTER 4 Responding When Your Child Is Overwhelmed by Emotions . . . . . 85

CHAPTER 5 Teaching Your Child to Manage Feelings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99

PART 3 Responding to Your Child’s Behaviors

CHAPTER 6 Behavioral Principles and Intense Behaviors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115

CHAPTER 7 Maintaining Expectations, Limits, and Routines. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135

CHAPTER 8 Decreasing Tantrums, Aggression, and Other Problem Behaviors . 145

CHAPTER 9 SchoolRelated Difﬁculties . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 157

PART 4 Helping Your Whole Family: Minimizing Collateral Damage

CHAPTER 10 The Impact of Intense Emotions on the Entire Family . . . . . . . . . . 173

CHAPTER 11 Caring for Yourself and Living Your Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 187

APPENDIX Resources for Parents . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 201

References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 205

Acknowledgments

hîs book îs te cumînatîon o a ong journey. ï started my socîa work career as ï was just steppîng out o adoescence, and as my career advanced ï got marrîed, ad cîdren, and contînued to earn and grow în bot my persona and my proessîona îe. As a cînîcîan wo aways ocused on amîîes, ît was natura tat wen ï was întroduced to DBT (dîaectîca beavîor terapy) at te Brîdge o Centra Massacusetts ï woud Ind a way to use ît to beneIt parents. hîs book îs te resut o a tat ï’ve earned aong te way. ï want to tank my earîest teacers o cognîtîve beavîora tecnîques and muc more, Pau Rosen and Larry Peterson. Your essons are încuded în many ways. ï aso want to tank Steve Murpy at te Brîdge, te orîgî-nator o te term “te story o emotîon.” Steve îred me as a dîvîsîon dîrec-tor and gave me te opportunîty to earn, practîce, and understand DBT and was te Irst one to suggest ï wrîte a book about parents and DBT. ï want to tank Crîsty (Cark) Matta, wo was my Irst teacer în a tîngs DBT and to wom ï owe a tremendous token o gratîtude. ït was wîe at te Brîdge tat ï met Jeanîne, wo provîded te înspîratîon or tîs book and wo îs aways avaîabe to remînd me wat skîs ep me te most. ï am grateu or er trust and er rîendsîp. Wen ï moved rom Massacusetts to Maryand, ï was ucky to be întroduced to parents and proessîonas wo were înterested în earnîng about DBT. ï am most grateu to Dîane Sterenbuc, wo ed me to te Natîona Aîance on Menta ïness (NAMï) and wose sared înterest în borderîne personaîty dîsorder and dîaectîca beavîor terapy opened many doors or me. ï want to acknowedge a te parents ï ave worked wît în Maryand wo ave taugt me so muc. O tese, ï am most grate-u to Gîna Saw, wo, as ï deveoped tîs book, sowed me tat efectîve

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