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Essential Habits of Relational Leaders is all about intentional investment in others-richer relationships and more effective leadership are dividends from building relational equity. Becoming a relational leader not only enlarges our leadership capacity, it is also the key to effective discipleship. In this book, Boyd Bailey provides practical principles to cultivate deeper, more meaningful relationships with spouses, family, friends and coworkers. The points to ponder and takeaways in each chapter guide the reader through reflection and self-evaluation to habit-building application and action. Boyd helped me to identify and shore up relational deficits and to begin compounding eternal investments.
David Martin, VP, Strategy Business Development
With this book, Boyd Bailey models the dignity of simplicity by supplying actionable key takeaways. He clearly articulates the compound interest relational leaders gain by taking an inside-out approach.
Jason Davis, Stewardship Coach, Jericho Force Enterprises
What better person is there to write a book on relational leadership than Boyd Bailey? Boyd is a personal family friend and is known in our community for his ever-intentional investments in people. He states, Our life purpose is fulfilled when we can help another fulfill their life purpose. Profound. In Essential Habits of Relational Leaders , Boyd is ever so artfully instructing us on a recipe that has been passed down since the time of Christ: Love God and Love People. Love others and seek their best interest without expecting anything in return. What kind of profound impact would this have if humans did this naturally? I highly recommend reading this book to get better in tune with your own heart, and by doing so, inevitably you will be able to better love those around you.
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Essential Habits of Relational Leaders
Copyright 2020 by Boyd Bailey
Published by Harvest House Publishers
Eugene, Oregon 97408
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Dedication

To my four sons-in-law: Todd, Tripp, J.T., and Tyler, who model well being relational leaders at home, at work, and in life.
Acknowledgments
T hank you Wisdom Hunters team for loving like Jesus: Rita Bailey, Shanna Schutte, Rachel Snead, Rachel Prince, Tripp Prince, Susan Fox, Patti Brown, and Wendy Becker.
Thank you, National Christian Foundation, for the opportunity to reach and restore every person through the love of Christ and to mobilize resources by inspiring biblical generosity.
I am grateful to our community group for keeping it real! Life is twice as blessed and half as hard because of you: Betsy and Bill Chapman, Alison and Bill Ibsen, Aria and Josh Randolph, Jodi and Andy Ward, and best of all, my sweetheart Rita Isbill Bailey.
Finishing Well accountability guys, thanks for deep scuba diving conversations, instead of shallow snorkeling small talk: Frank Bell, Woody Faulk, Mike Kendrick, and Scotland Wright.
To all the book clubs, you are the best: members of the Businessmen Book Club-David Deeter, Nathan Deeter, and Mike Davis; members of Classics Book Club-Larry Green, Bill Ibsen, and Bill Williams; and members of the NCF Book Club-Greg Winchester, Greg Mauldin, and Michael King.
I am grateful to our family for supporting me: Rita, Rebekah, Todd, Hudson, Harrison, Marshall, Rachel, Tripp, Lily, Emmie, Charlie, Bethany, J.T., Weston, M.J., Anna, Tyler, and Wilson.
Thank you, Susan Fox, for your expert editing. Thanks go to Terry Glaspey for coaching me, brainstorming with me, and bringing out the best in me and my writing. You know me better than I know me!
Thank you, Wisdom Hunters Board of Directors, for your love, prayers, and accountability-Cliff Bartow, Andrew Wexler, and John Hightower, and to the advisors, Debbie Ochs and Jack McEntee.
Thank you, Harvest House Publishers, for your vision and support for this book: Bob Hawkins, Aaron Dillon, Sherri Slopianka, Shann Hartley, Terry Glaspey, Ken Lorenz, Kathy Zemper, and Brad Moses.
Most of all, I am grateful to Jesus, the ultimate example of a relational, loving leader.
Contents
Endorsements
Dedication
Acknowledgments
Preface
Introduction: Essential Habits of a Relational Leader-an Example
1. Grow Relational Capacity
2. Restore a Relationship When Trust Is Broken
3. Avoid the Relationship Killer
4. Work Through Relational Conflict
5. Nurture Past Relationships
6. Know People and Be Known by People
7. Be Available and Engaged
8. Seek Wisdom from Scripture
9. Be a Good Griever
10. Comfort Those Who Suffer and Hurt
11. Make Others Successful
12. Have an Unchanging Identity
13. Be Uniquely Yourself
14. Connect Good People with Good People
15. Be Loved by God to Love for God
16. Influence Influencers
17. Look for Daily Divine Appointments
18. Invite Faith to Lead Feelings
19. Pray for and with Others
20. Grow a Generous Life
21. Model What You Expect
22. Anticipate Where God Is at Work
23. Create a Safe Home Environment
24. Serve Without Expecting to Be Served
25. Serve with a Second-Mile Mindset
26. Serve Your Way Out of Discouragement
27. Listen with a Desire to Understand and Help
28. Engage in a Small, Caring Community
29. Mentor and Be Mentored
30. Grow a Loving Relationship with God
Conclusion: Stay Fresh in Your Walk with Jesus
Notes
About Boyd and Rita Bailey
Wisdom Hunters
National Christian Foundation
Other Leadership Reading by Boyd Bailey
More Great Harvest House Books by Boyd Baile
About the Publisher
Preface
W hat are essential habits ? Essential habits are those habits that are most necessary for healthy relational leadership. I have chosen essential habits like empathetic listening, comforting, and forgiveness as necessary for leading relationally at home, work, and in friendships, but I have not addressed other important ideas like how to lead a meeting or hire and fire personnel. Essential habits are necessary for leadership-without them, we cannot lead well.
One definition demands another. A relational leader is a leader who values relationships because humans are created in God s image. Humans deserve and expect love, respect, and accountability. A leader who values people knows the names of those who serve in her organization. She knows their spouses and children s names. She knows what motivates her colleagues: money, recognition, time off, etc. She knows what makes her husband and children feel loved: affirmation, service, gifts, quality time, or affection. She knows the dreams and fears of those she leads, because she values people.
There is a real risk that a relational leader will be taken advantage of or even betrayed. Jesus had 12 disciples, and one of them wa