No-Self Help Book , livre ebook

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English

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2018

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Kate Gustin

Publié par
New Harbinger Publications

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2018

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 novembre 2018

EAN13

9781684032181

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

4 Mo

It’s time to get over your self!

Written by a clinical psychologist and student of Eastern philosophy, this handy little guide offers a radical solution to anyone struggling with self-doubt, self-esteem, and self-defeating thoughts: “no-self help.” By breaking free of your own self-limiting beliefs, you’ll discover your infinite potential.

There is an insidious, global identity theft occurring that has robbed people of their very recognition of their true selves. The culprit—indeed the mastermind of this crisis—has committed the inside job of creating and promoting the idea that we are all a separate self, which is the chief source of our daily distress and dissatisfaction.

No more than a narrative of personhood pieced together from disparate neural activations, the self we believe ourselves to be in our own minds—although quite capable of being affirming, inspiring, and constructive—often spews forth a distressing flow of worry and second-guessing, blaming and shaming, regret and guilt. This book offers an antidote to this epidemic of stolen identity, isolation, and self-deprecation: no-self (a concept known in Buddhist philosophy as anatta or anatman).

The No-Self Help Book turns the idea of self-improvement on its head, arguing that the key to well-being lies not in the relentless pursuit of bettering one’s self but in the recognition of the self as a false identity born in the mind. Rather than identifying with a small, relative sense of self, this book encourages you to embrace a liberating alternative—an expansive awareness that is flexible and open to experiencing life as an ongoing and ever-changing process, without attachment to personal outcomes or storylines.

To help you make this leap from self to no-self, the book provides forty bite-sized chapters full of clever and inspiring insights based in positive psychology and non-duality—a philosophy that asserts there is no real separation between any of us. So, if you’re tired of “self-help” and you’re ready to explore who you are beyond the self, let The No-Self Help Book be your guide.

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 novembre 2018

EAN13

9781684032181

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

4 Mo

“Drawing on psychological research and clinical experience, Kate Gustin offers a profound understanding of our truest identity under-neath the mind’s story, helping us connect with the peaceful, inter-connected consciousness at our core.The No-Self Help Book is a refreshing and timely antidote to the rampant loneliness of our times.”

—Marci Shimoff,#1New York Timesbestselling author ofHappy for No Reason

“Kate Gustin’sThe No-Self Help Book is a new approach to emo-tional healing that provides simple, clear-minded lessons on getting away from the negative, bullying voice of the constructed self. As you learn to ignore the false narrative, you’ll see yourself through new eyes as you discover that you’re not who the voice inside you says you are, or who you pretend to be. Instead, you discover the authentic being within each of us who is capable of relaxed joy and awareness.”

—Anne Lamott, author ofAlmost Everything

“If you were to try to define yourself, how would you do that and what would your SELF look like? Treat yourself to the concept of NO SELF and discover how you are not just your mind’s stories.”

—Sharon Salzberg, author ofLovingkindnessandReal Love

“Kate Gustin’s quirky and compelling book subtracts the self out of self-help! She communicates a powerful and ageless spiritual truth in a way that is accessible, humorous, and compassionate. Highly recommended!”

—Mariana Caplan, PhD, MFT, author ofYoga and PsycheandEyes Wide Open

“Kate Gustin has written a book that is at once insightful, refresh-ing, playful, and truly wise.The No-Self Help Bookgoes to the very root of our unhappiness and insecurity: as long as we think we’re separate from the rest of life, we aren’t enough and will remain stuck in the prison of our minds. When we learn to see ourselves from the illuminating perspective presented in these pages, we can under-stand that from the beginning we were always enough just as we are. Then we can play at being who we truly are instead of taking our-selves so seriously. How liberating!”

—James Baraz, cofounder of Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre, CA; coauthor ofAwakening Joy

THE NO-SELF HELP BOOK 40 Reasons to Get Over Your Self & Find Peace of Mind

K A T E G U S T I N , PHD

NONDUALITY PRESS An Imprint of New Harbinger Publications

Publisher’s Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Cover design by Amy Shoup; Acquired by Elizabeth Hollis Hansen; Edited by Jean Blomquist

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data on file

To the Great Mystery, with gratitude from a “spiritual being having ahumanexperience.” (Pierre Teilhard de Chardin)

A human being is part of the whole, called by us “Universe,” a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separate from the rest—a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. The striving to free oneself from this delusion…to try to overcome it is the way to reach the attainable measure of peace of mind.

—Albert Einstein

Contents

Foreword ix

Introduction 1

Part 1:Selfhoods

1.Imposter Self The 11 2.13Self Slices and Dices The 3.15Self Freezes The 4.17 The Dictator Self 5.19 The Self Seeks Esteem 6.21Self Wants The

7.Self The Needs 23 8. The Self Whines 25 9.27Self Is Picky The 10. The 29Self Smirks 11. The Self Strikes Out 31 12. The Self Steals Credit 33 13.35Self Is Selfish The 14. The 36Self Gets Rejected 15. The Self Checks Out 38

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16. The Self Stays Stuck 40 17.Self Second-Guesses The 42 18.Self Suffers Scarcity The 44 19.46 The Self Erodes 20.48 The Self Dies

Part 2:No-Self Speaks

21.The Biggest Bang No-Self: 53 22. No-Self: Fuel Efficient 55 23. No-Self: The Better Lover 57 24.No Shoulding No-Self, 59 25.No Calories No-Self, 61 26. No-Self, No Judgment 63 27. No-Self, No Time to Lose 65 28.No Tests No-Self, 66 29.Selfless Parenting No-Self: 68 30. No-Self Tastes Better. 70 31. No-Self, No Lost or Found 72 32.No Lack No-Self, 74 33.No Target No-Self, 76 34.78 No-Self, No Aging

Part 3:To Self or Not to Self?

35.Effectiveness Test 83 The 36. ActingAs If 88 37. Smart Selfing 93 38.102the I-land Off 39. The No-Self Revolution 105 40. The Homing Beacon 109

MeSearch 113

Acknowledgments 173

References 175

Contents

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