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New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 janvier 0001

Nombre de lectures

EAN13

9781608829798

Langue

English

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Although most books about sexual desire blame one partner or the other for too low or too high a desire level, this book helps readers understand that it is a couple''s dynamic that is most often the cause of unsatisfying relationship libido. Use this book to reestablish sexy reciprocity and restore sexual desire without resorting to hormone supplements or bedroom techniques designed only to arouse momentary sexual interest.

By convincingly removing one partner (usually the woman) from the sexual dysfunction, this book guides you and your partner to an awareness of how both of you contribute to a lack of passion in your sex life. Using easy and fun-to-implement exercises, couples then learn to differentiate desire from arousal, highlight the short-circuits of their sexual excitement, understand the potent aphrodisiac of reciprocal male and female power, master communication skills that turn up the heat, and continuously tap into, maintain, and deepen your interest in your sex life and the lust you can still feel for each other.

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 janvier 0001

Nombre de lectures

EAN13

9781608829798

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

1 Mo

“This thoughtful, wellwritten, insightful guide may be the best book available for couples who want (and need) to understand why sexual desire decreases and, based on this understanding, learn how to increase sensual/sexual desires, passion, and emotional closeness.In the Mood, Againwill help couples fight for their marriage and restore, protect, and ensure a lasting love based on friendship, knowledge, and desire.”

—Howard J. Markman, Ph.D., professor of psychology, director of the Center for Marital and Family Studies at the University of Denver and coauthor,We Can Work It OutandFighting for Your Marriage

“This book is a musthave for every practitioner of women’s health care. In clear and concise language, Cervenka unravels the mystery of sexuality and provides practical substantiated advice that will improve the quality of life for women of all ages. It is a treasure of valuable and useful clinical information.”

—Mary Lee Josey, MD, Diplomate, American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology, fellow, American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology

“From a sex expert who tells it like it is, comes the skinny on what really works to recharge a couple’s sex life. Cervenka knows it’s not about blaming one or another partner, but helping both partners tap into their sexual power and communicate in ways that will turn up the heat. This is a fun and important book.”

—Lauren Dockett, coauthor ofSex Talkand author ofThe Deepest Blue

“Finally, a book that deals honestly and candidly with many issues and insecurities that couples in mature relationships often do not know how to approach. For women in longlasting relationships who feel that sex is just one more chore, this book is your lifeline! Throughout this delightful, often witty and utterly truthful book Cervenka presents couples with concrete examples and practical exercises that will help reignite the flame you thought was lost forever. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has lost desire for their partner and wishes to invest in this most important relationship.”

—Amy Borenstein, Ph.D., MPH, professor, College of Public Health, University of South Florida

“This is a book for couples of all ages. Filled with insights gained from years of experience as a sex therapist, this guide focuses on the importance of desire, the largely unappreciated antecedent to an enduring emotional and sexual relationship. Seniors need to hear more about enduring love and sexual desire and less about the declining frequency of sexual activity with increasing age. I highly recommend this book to them.”

—James A. Mortimer, Ph.D., Saunders professor of Gerontology and director of the Institute on Aging at the University of South Florida

Publisher’s Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the pub lisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other profes sional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Cover design by Amy Shoup Cover image by J.P. Nacivet/Getty Images Text design by Michele Waters

New Harbinger Publications’ Web site address: www.newharbinger.com

This book is dedicated with everything I am, with all my spirit, and with my deepest, eternal love to my magnificent husband, Hendricks, whose gentle and loving spirit epitomizes the definition of a passionate relationship. To my children, Chris and Joe, whose brilliance, sensitivity, and humor continue to inspire me. And to Jim, who is a loving addition to our family.

Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction

Chapter One Understanding Sexual Desire 7 The Human Sexual Response CycleWSexual Desire Is MotivationW The Five Sensations of Desire Chapter Two The Two Phases of Desire 21 Euphoric LustWEnduring LoveWThe Meaning of CommitmentW The Dance between Your Mind and DesireWA Tango between Circumstance and Desire Chapter Three The Intimate Boundary 37 Your Couple BoundaryWThe Creation of Your Protected BarrierW Rules to Love ByWTogether but Separate

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Chapter Four Fire Extinguishers 49 Inequality within a RelationshipWFlirtatious BehaviorWComputer Sex WInfidelityWA Libido DiscrepancyWNot Being Able to Engage in Sexual FantasyWEveryday StressWNegative Body ImageW Boring Sexual TechniquesWUnpleasant Sexual Techniques

Chapter Five Let’s Exchange Roles Jan and Jeff

Chapter Six Physiological Obstacles That Interfere with Desire Alcohol and Substance AbuseWDepressionWAn Abnormal Hormonal LevelWPoor Physical HealthWThe Effects of Aging

Chapter Seven Power: The Aphrodisiac That Works Understanding PowerWUnderstanding Your Own Individual Power WThe Prerequisites of Power Reciprocity

Chapter Eight The Wimp Factor Survey ResultsWPower and Perception

Chapter Nine You’ve Got the Power The Characteristics of Power

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Chapter Ten Want Sex? Unleash Your Power Unleash Your Power and Turn On the Heat

Chapter Eleven Can We Talk? Effective CommunicationWConversational Skills

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Chapter Twelve Verbal Intercourse The Casual ConversationWThe Informational ConversationWThe Connected Conversation

Chapter Thirteen From Passion to Climax Starting a Sexual Connected Conversation with Your PartnerWDiscussions Involving the Three Phases of the Sexual Response Cycle WThe Climax

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