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“Everyday Bliss for Busy Women is packed with practical techniques that can be easily understood and put into practice right away to improve health and provide balance. While it is written with the well-being of women in mind, it has a lot of useful how-tos for anyone. I highly recommend it.”
—Tim Hallbom, director of training at the Neurolinguistic Programming and Coaching Institute of California
“This powerfully written book will give you the practical tools to live life to its fullest and still maintain your sanity! It is what every working woman is looking for in today’s world of crazy schedules, unreasonable demands, and unrealistic expectations. Renewing your energy and focus with the ideas from Everyday Bliss for Busy Women will change your life and help you avoid self-destruction from toxic stress.”
—Charles D. Schmitz, Ph.D., and Elizabeth A. Schmitz, Ph.D., authors of Golden Anniversaries
“Maryam Webster has written an exceptionally positive book filled with practical techniques to help you decrease stress and increase your bliss. She offers succinct descriptions of several simple and powerful energy psychology techniques, including emotional freedom techniques (EFT), the Tapas acupressure technique (TAT), and the ZPoint Process. Apply this wisdom and enjoy your bliss.”
—Fred Gallo, Ph.D., author of Energy Tapping and Energy Tapping for Trauma
Energy Balancing Secrets for Complete Health &Vitality
Maryam Webster
New Harbinger Publications, Inc. -->
Publisher’s Note
This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.
Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books
Copyright © 2008 by Maryam Webster
New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
5674 Shattuck Avenue
Oakland, CA 94609
www.newharbinger.com
Cover and text design by Amy Shoup; Graphics by Matthew Dixon; Author photo by Jason Frankenfield; Acquired by Jess O’Brien; Edited by Amy Johnson
All Rights Reserved. Printed in the United States of America.
Epub ISBN: 9781608825066
The Library of Congress has cataloged the print edition as:
Webster, Maryam.
Everyday bliss for busy women : energy balancing secrets for complete health and vitality / Maryam Webster.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN-13: 978-1-57224-567-9 (pbk. : alk. paper)
ISBN-10: 1-57224-567-0 (pbk. : alk. paper) 1. Women--Health and hygiene. 2. Vitality. 3. Women--Mental health. 4. Happiness. I. Title.
RA778.W227 2008
613’.04244--dc22
2008003625
This book is dedicated to my mother, Winona Doris Ratliff Russell. Mom had tremendous faith in me and was an outspoken advocate for bliss in my life, even when struggles with pain and physical disability clouded my path. This book is also dedicated to devoted mothers worldwide, whose selfless love and advocacy enable children who might never have done so otherwise to walk, talk, dance, and sing. Moms, consider this book a thank-you present for a job well done.
Contents
Acknowledgments
Foreword
Introduction: Everyday Bliss for Busy Women
Why I Wrote This Book
The Unique Difference of the Everyday Bliss Process
We’re All Healing from Something
The Everyday Bliss Process
What You Will Learn in This Book
Chapter 1: Redefining Selfish and Reclaiming Extra Time
Dedicate Yourself to a Life of Everyday Bliss
Creating a Blissful Space
Reclaiming and Redefining Your Bliss
The Tyranny of Time
Chapter 2: Bliss and the Power of Belief
What Beliefs Are and How They Can Help or Hurt Us
The Toxic Power of Negative Belief Stories (A.K.A. “B.S.”)
Your Life Mission
Chapter 3: Become Overwhelmingly Attractive: Attracting What You Want
Creating Your Own Bliss Magnet
Keeping Your Own Well Full
Thinking Only the Best Thoughts
Attract by Saying No
Bliss Blockers and Bliss Keys
Chapter 4: Energy Therapy Quick-Starts for Relaxation, Peace, and Health
The A.M. Cleansing & Enlivening Routine
The P.M. Calming & Soothing Routine
A Few Extra Bliss-Out Techniques
Chapter 5: Emotional Freedom Technique: The Active Woman’s Friend
EFT: Background & Basics
How to Achieve Emotional Freedom with EFT
Going to the Movies: EFT Style
From Little to None: Getting Rid of That Last Little Bit of Tension
Chapter 6: Tapas Acupressure Technique: Gentle Relief for a Woman’s Soul
Why Use TAT?
The Steps of TAT
Practice Notes and Mechanics
Further Work in TAT
Chapter 7: ZPoint Process—Energy Therapy on the Go!
How ZPoint Works
The Steps of a Basic ZPoint Clearing
The Opening Statement
The ZPoint Erase-the-Tape Technique
Practice Notes on Erasing the Tape
Chapter 8: Putting It All Together: First Steps
Initial Work to Do
Chapter 9: Situational & Instantaneous Bliss Generators
Peace Generator and Sharing Your Wealth
Creating an Outrageously Compelling Outcome
Let Your Environment Evolve You—Effortlessly
Chapter 10: Preventive Maintenance and Extending the Field of Bliss
Extending the Bliss Field in Your Evening Hours
Chapter 11: Your Blissful Year
A Year of Bliss
Chapter 12: Afterword and Invitation
Resources
Techniques Taught in This Book
Basic Bioenergetic Theory (How & Why This Stuff Works)
Belief Systems & the Law of Attraction
Bliss Key Companions
Energy Therapies, Systems & Training
Supportive Practices
References
Acknowledgments
First, I would like to thank Joseph Campbell, that dear mythologist who enjoined us all to “follow your bliss,” and gave me the idea to write this book. Thanks also to my spiritual mentor, the metís shaman Corliss “d” deLarm Jr. who showed me the path of bliss in my own life.
This book would not have been possible without the many coaching clients who helped me refine the Everyday Bliss Process through its diligent application in their own lives. Though I have changed names to protect identities, the examples in this book are taken from the lives of real women with jobs, problems, and issues just like yours. My thanks go to them and also to the “Women of Bliss” who graciously gave of their time to be interviewed. Though I was only able to include a fraction of these interviews in the book, every single one aided my research and I am grateful to each interviewee. You can hear and read many of these interviews at the book’s website: www.everydaybliss.org .
I also wish to acknowledge the contributions of John Thie, Donna Eden, David Feinstein, Gary Craig, Larry Nims, and Tapas Fleming, who developed many of the tools you will find in this book. I am ­particularly grateful to ZPoint Process creator Grant Connolly for his great cooperation and collegial sharing in writing the ZPoint chapter.
Thanks also go to my teachers and primary influences in the field of Neurolinguistic Programming: Tim Halbom, Robert Dilts, Suzi Smith, and the members of the NLP Café. The field is rich with contributions from different sources, many of which have informed my work—thank you all for what you do.
Personal thanks goes to my husband, Jason, and to the Friday Morning WWBD Mastermind group, both of which endured paragraph-by-paragraph dissections with grace and good humor, always coming up with good input.
Thanks also to my editors at New Harbinger. You’ve been gracious, accommodating, and unfailingly kind throughout this process. I couldn’t have done it without you.
Finally I would like to acknowledge the Everyday Bliss R&D Team, who tested the concepts at www.everydaybliss.org and gave generously of their feedback. It’s been a pleasure to create a book with you that will truly make a difference in people’s lives.
—Maryam Webster San Francisco, California August 2007
Foreword
All those years ago when I wrote The Woman’s Comfort Book , I didn’t know I was going to be lucky enough to be a small part of a luminous, glorious movement devoted to mindfulness, passion, and sanity that was just getting its start. What began as a few voices saying, “Um, I think this self-care stuff might be important, I think the way modern life is going might not be all good” has become a tidal wave of books, TV programs, radio shows, seminars, and one-on-one conversations exploring the myriad ways we can create a life that is sustainable, founded on simplicity, and guided by something more compelling and alive than how much money we earn or how young we look. We’re constantly discovering new ways to live the truth that self-care, self-nurturing and work/life flow are not luxuries but instead, they’re part of the solution to our survival as a species. It’s about a whole lot more than chocolate and hot baths.
Maryam Webster knows this and that’s why her book is ­important —from her well-researched information on energy cultivation to her practical pointers on getting your mind around how you choose to spend your time, these pages offer more of what we need to keep evolving, to keep learning new thrive. Because it’s clear: the world is not slowing down. Nobody “out there” is going to be pushing the universal pause button anytime soon. It’s up to each of us to say “Enough already,” whether that enough already is not buying into the story that your kids will fall behind if you don’t have them scheduled every micro second, or discovering that buying more stuff doesn’t actually fill the void in your heart, or learning that taking time to catch up with yourself does not cause anyone, including yourself, to die.
You know you can’t live in this postmodern world without it taking a ginormous physical, emotional, and spiritual toll on you, and you know that if you don’t get really, really smart and creative about how you deal with the onslaught of busyness, information, and change that comes at you almost every moment, you’ll die, if not physically, then certainly spiritually and emotionally. Ma