Express Yourself , livre ebook

“Understanding, responding to, and managing social relationships can be complicated for teenagers. In Express Yourself , Emily Roberts breaks down the barriers with actionable tips and advice every teen needs. From e-mail etiquette to social media and dating, Roberts offers sage advice teens can relate to. Written for teens yet valuable for parents, this is a coffee table book to leave around your home in the event your teen needs guidance she is hesitant to seek from you. Confused? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Afraid? Just ask Emily. Then Express Yourself .”
Lynne Kenney, PsyD , mom to two teens, pediatric psychologist, international speaker, and coauthor of Bloom: 50 Things to Say, Think, and Do with Anxious, Angry, and Over-the-Top Kids
“Emily Roberts’s Express Yourself is the ideal combination of humor, real talk, and research from which every girl can benefit. This book reminds young women of their power and influence, all while providing tried and true strategies for how to be the happiest, healthiest, best versions of themselves. It’s fun, practical, and most definitely worth the read.”
Lexie Kite, PhD , codirector of Beauty Redefined Foundation
“ Express Yourself is exactly what the confidence conversation needs. With its great communication tools, helpful and rewarding exercises, and abundant opportunities for self-reflection, this book offers teens the tools they need to tackle life and all the obstacles that come with it.”
Jess Weiner , author and self-esteem expert
“In short, Express Yourself is excellent. Roberts provides practical skills and assertiveness-building exercises for teen girls—an audience who so desperately needs more voices telling them how to effectively stand up for themselves and why it’s important to do so. Any girl who reads this will walk away with new positive communication techniques to implement in her life.”
Ami Kane, MPA , development director at the Girls Empowerment Network (GENaustin)
“ Express Yourself feels like a conversation with someone who really gets you—that wise and compassionate friend whose advice is always on target. It serves as a road map for teens to learn to take up space with their voice. That is a concept society works very hard to get girls to unlearn, but thankfully Roberts created a phenomenal guide to keep them in the practice of speaking their truth. Parents and educators will find this book to be a wonderful resource for the girls they care about as they transition into outspoken, confident young women.”
Melissa Atkins Wardy , speaker, consultant, business owner, and author of Redefining Girly
“Emily Roberts’s Express Yourself nails the beauty and complexity of girl’s world. This much-needed book is packed full of wisdom to help young women navigate and normalize their teen years with bravery and confidence.”
Julia V. Taylor , MA, author of The Body Image Workbook for Teens , Salvaging Sisterhood , and Perfectly You , and coauthor of G.I.R.L.S. (Girls in Real Life Situations) and The Bullying Workbook for Teens
“Emily Roberts has created a manual thatcan be useful to every adolescent girl. This book fills a void for girls struggling to manage difficult interpersonal relationships, and provides essential strategies for improving these relationships, as well as managing emotions during the challenging transition of adolescence. This is a great resource for adolescents, as well as for parents and professionals.”
Dr. Drew Pinsky

A teen girl's guide to speaking up and being who you are
Emily Roberts
New Harbinger Publications, Inc. -->
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Copyright © 2015 by Emily Roberts
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This book is for you, my dear. That’s right, you the young woman, the one reading these words. The world needs you to speak up and shine with confidence, to share your voice, and to become who you are supposed to be. This book is for all the girls and young women I’ve worked with who have shared their stories (you know who you are), who have bravely asked for help, and who have allowed me to join them on their journey to develop confidence. Tatum Emory, Tinsley Elizabeth, Olivia Marie, Lelia Marie, Imani Jayden, and Jenna Brooke, may this book be your guide to the teen years to come.
Contents
Foreword
Acknowledgments
Introduction: Become The Director of Your Own Life
Chapter 1. Communicating with Confidence
Chapter 2. Friends & Frenemies
Chapter 3. Family Frustrations & Building Better Bonds
Chapter 4. Digital Drama & Texting Troubles
Chapter 5. The Social Butterfly: You with Your Peers
Chapter 6. Romantic Relationships
Chapter 7. Powerful Adults & Professionals
Conclusion: The Assertive You
Resources
Foreword
Being a teenager is hard. This isn’t exactly earth-shattering news. I’m guessing you could write your own book about how challenging being a teenager truly is. Adolescence is a time of great change: physically, mentally, and emotionally. It is the time of life when the most change occurs, second only to infancy.
As a teen, there are many things pulling you in lots of directions. You have your parents asking you for one thing, your friends asking you for something else, and maybe you want something altogether different. With all of this confusion, you may not know what to do, what to say, or how to act. Add into this confusion all of your emotions, and it can feel like a recipe for disaster. The challenge, frequently, is figuring out how to handle it all so you feel empowered and confident, all the while building and maintaining your important relationships.
It is challenging to know what skills to use to be true to yourself and to speak your mind. You may be feeling rifts in your relationships with your friends, family, or other people in your life. If you had the skills to help you communicate and manage your emotions better, your relationships with yourself and others would improve, your ability to navigate the world would be better, and you would begin to feel more confident in yourself and within your life.
Learning how to slow down, take a minute, and determine what you want to do or say effectively and efficiently are the keys to feeling comfortable in your own skin and communicating with ease. When you learn these skills, you will be assertive, confident, and comfortable with yourself.
My excellent colleague Emily Roberts has been working with teens and young adults for over a decade. Many teens she works with see her more as a mentor than a therapist due to her compassionate stance and realistic voice. She understands the challenges faced by teens and has created an innovative, powerful approach to help you achieve your goals and feel your best. This book arrives at an amazing time. It highlights the challenges you face and will teach you how to navigate them confidently and assertively. The skills within this book promote empowerment, understanding, and strength. By incorporating these skills into your daily life, you will feel more confident and self-assured, in control of your emotions, and more comfortable speaking up in any situation.
—Jennifer L. Hartstein, PsyD
owner, Hartstein Psychological Services
contributor, NBC’s The Today Show
author, Princess Recovery: A How-To Guide to Raising Strong, Empowered Girls Who Can Create Their Own Happily Ever Afters
self-esteem ambassador, Dove Real Beauty Campaign>
Acknowledgments
This book would not have been possible without the love, support, and guidance from my supportive cast and crew who taught me how to be the director of my own life and believed in my dream to inspire and empower girls. We did it.
Mom, Dad, and Sara: You taught me to chase my dreams, even when they led me halfway across the country. You’ve supported my wild ideas and always encouraged me to think for myself. I am beyond grateful to have such a unique upbringing—I know you probably never thought I would say so, but it has helped me feel anything but ordinary. Thank you for your endless supply of love, incense, and supplements.
Nana and Grandma: You ladies have shown me what it means to be a strong woman. I am inspired by your stories and your love.
My New York Cast and Crew
Jen, my role model, mentor, and confidant: You have shown me what a mentor really is, and I aspire to be like you someday; your advice and expertise is invaluable. Without you, I really wouldn’t be here—you trusted my ideas, put up with my procrastination, and pushed me to get out of my comfort zone. You trained me, not just in DBT, but in finding my confidence.
My consultation team: Y’all are amazing—you’ve shown me what collaboration really means! Thank you for your guidance and support. Even on the toughest days, you helped me find the middle path.
Gabby Bernstein, my guru of guidance: You inspired me to spread my message with the world. You believed in my dream and encouraged me to keep writing. You taught me to trust myself, and, finally, to sit still and be guided. I am forever grateful.
Blair and Rebeca, my NYC family: Blair, you’re my soul sister; thank you for manifesting with me and making our lives a reality. Without you, Milo, Max, and Lux, I would have been lost. You showed me that everything really does happen for a reason. I love you! Rebeca, from our dorm room days