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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 août 2015

EAN13

9781626252059

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

2 Mo

Growing up with a parent who is self-absorbed is difficult, and they may become more difficult to deal with as they age. This essential book shows how to cope with your aging parent's narcissistic behavior, and provides tips to help protect yourself and your children from their self-absorbed, destructive actions.

As your self-absorbed parent grows older and becomes more dependent on you, hurtful relationships may resurface and become further strained. In the tradition of Children of the Self-Absorbed, author Nina Brown offers the first book for adult children of aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parents. You will learn practical, powerful strategies for navigating the intense negative feelings that your parents can incite, as well as tips to protect your children from the criticism, blame, or hostility that may exist between you and their grandparent.

In this book, you will gain greater awareness of how and why your parent's self-absorbed behaviors and attitudes get worse, and develop strategies to manage the negative feelings that can arise as a result. You'll also learn to reduce the shame and guilt that may be felt when you feel like you don't want to be a caretaker. Finally, you'll learn to set limits with your parent so you can stay sane during this difficult time.

Having an aging parent can be stressful enough, but dealing with an aging narcissistic or self-absorbed parent is especially challenging. This essential guide will help you through.

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 août 2015

EAN13

9781626252059

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

2 Mo

“ChildrenoftheAgingSelfAbsorbedan împortant nîce în te se- Is ep îterature: deaîng wît agîng, dîicut, narcîssîstîc parents and grandparents. he book îs a guîde or adut cîdren o suc parents, and ofers muc wîsdom. Brown deîneates our types o se-absorbed parents—Cîngy, Suspîcîous-Deensîve, Arrogant, and Beîgerent—and provîdes exceent strategîes or managîng înteractîons wît eac type o parent. he book as useu exercîses desîgned to ep readers manage teîr sîde o tese very dîicut reatîonsîps more efectîvey. he over-rîdîng message îs tat te adut cîd must—and can—et go o opîng to cange te parent and înstead deveop se-protectîve copîng beav-îors. hîs book îs a good resource or anyone deaîng wît an agîng se-absorbed parent or grandparent, as we as or terapîsts epîng teîr cîents în suc sîtuatîons.”

—EeanorF. Counseman, EdD, ABPP, CGP, LFAGPA, presîdent-eect o te Amerîcan Group Psycoterapy Assocîatîon, and assîstant cînîca proessor o psycîatry, Harvard Medîca Scoo

“Nîna Brown îgts te way, epîng you navîgate te roer coaster o carîng or narcîssîstîc, agîng parents and grandparents. hîs ground-breakîng book întroduces vauabe exercîses and practîca advîce to strengten your resîîence and protect you rom takîng în te negatîvîty o your se-absorbed parents.”

—AnnSteiner, PD, MFT, CGP, FAGPA, acuty o he Psycoterapy ïnstîtute, board member o te Amerîcan Group Psycoterapy Assocîatîon, and autor oHowtoCreateandSustainGroupsthatThrive

“His new text by Nina Brown makes clear te impact o sel-absorbed parents and ofers some useul tecniques about wat to do about tem.… Written in an easily accessible and commonsense tone, [ChildrenoftheAgingSelfAbsorbedas] someting to ofer or tose wit relatively little background in psycology and uman development teory, as well as tose wit considerable experience.… Brown takes te reader troug te basics o coping wit a problem tat is aced by a good deal o te early, middle, and later adult population.… His text is a useul and practical review o te issues involved wit parent-cild dynamics in te adultood years and provides some solid structure or describing, catego-rizing, and responding to tese issues in an efective manner.”

—JosuaM. Gross, PD, ABPP, CGP, psycologist and director o group programs at He University Counseling Center at Florida State University, were e practices group and amily psycology as well as trains and supervises doctoral and post-doctoral trainees

Childrenof the AgingSelf– Absorbed

A Guide to Coping with Difîcult, NarcissisticParents & Grandparents

Nina W. Brown, EdD, LPC

New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Publisher’s Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Cover design by Amy Shoup Acquired by Melissa Valentine Edited by Brady Kahn

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data on file

Printed in the United States of America

17 16 15

10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 First printing

his book is dedicated to my amily, wo continue to give me encouragement, support, and, most o all, joy.

Contents

Preace ................................................................................................. vii

Acknowledgments ................................................................................. ix

CAPTER 1

CAPTER 2

CAPTER 3

CAPTER 4

CAPTER 5

CAPTER 6

CAPTER 7

CAPTER 8

CAPTER 9

Aging and te Sel-Absorbed Parent .......................... 1

Types o Sel-Absorbed Parents ................................ 23

Wy You React as You Do...................................... 45

CangingYourHinkingtoCangeYour Response.......................................................... 65

General Coping Strategies........................................ 83

CopingStrategiesorClingyandSuspicious/Deensive Types ....................................................... 95

CopingStrategiesorArrogantandBelligerent Types.....................................................115

ManagingConLict and Assautive Conrontations �� 133

Protecting Your Se �� 147

CAPTER 10 Protecting Oters�� 167

CAPTER 11 Winning and Hriving �� 187

Preace

Aging is a natura part o ie and brings many canges to and or eac o us� Many o tese canges appen graduay over time and may go unnoticed unti tey reac a certain point were we become aware o tem and can no onger deny tem� Many books and oter resources are avaiabe to guide peope troug te aging process and to provide an understanding o agereated conditions� his book as a diferent ocus: it guides you as te adut cid o a seabsorbed parent wo is aging, to ep you gain a better understanding o ow your parent’s aging may afect is or er aready seabsorbed beaviors and attitudes and to provide coping suggestions or ow to succeed and trive in spite o tem� Empasized are your tougts, eeings, and reactions, as tese are your resources or a constructive buiding o your se tat wi witstand te negative impact o your parent’s beavior and attitudes on your con scious and unconscious seperception, seconIdence, and se-esteem. he ocus wî not be on te se-absorbed parent, as your parent îs unîkey to cange. Unortunatey, tere îs îtte or notîng tat you can do to promote and encourage posîtîve cange or your parent. However, tere îs muc you can do to promote and encourage posîtîve cange or yourse. You may now ave a amîy you created în addîtîon to your amîy o orîgîn and be concerned about ow your se-absorbed parent can and does negatîvey afect your created amîy. You may want to protect your amîy rom dîstressîng beavîors and attîtudes tat you’ve encountered a your îe, as you know very we ow urtu and destructîve tey can be. hîs book descrîbes ow you can prepare yourse and your amîy,

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