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220

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English

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Écrit par
Mary Polce-Lynch

Publié par
New Harbinger Publications

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 janvier 0001

EAN13

9781626254435

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

4 Mo

What events and processes occur in the lives of open and expressive boys that often change them into locked-down, uncommunicative adolescents? In this book, a counseling psychologist draws on her own extensive research to help your understand the communication challenges faced by your son or a boy you care about. The book begins with the assumption that boys of all dispositions, from outgoing athletes to introspective intellectuals, need help and support to make it through their adolescences. The book suggests ways you can help the boy in your life make small, incremental changes that will help him express his emotions. It also offers you, the adult, a variety of effective approaches for dealing with specific problem behaviors and situations you might encounter with your growing boy.

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 janvier 0001

EAN13

9781626254435

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

4 Mo

Publisher’s Note This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Cover photo: Luc Beziat/Stone Cover design by Amy Shoup Edited by Kayla Sussell Text design by Tracy Marie Powell

ISBN10 157224271X ISBN13 9781572242715

Printed in the United States of America

New Harbinger Publications’ website address: www.newharbinger.com

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Dedication

This book is dedicated with love to my parents, Esther B. Polce and Anthony H. Polce, Sr.

Author’s

Notes

It is important for readers and mental health consumers to know that although many names and stories fill this book, I have respected the confidentiality of the boys and families in my clinical practice by cre ating composite narratives. Thus, none of the names and/or situa tions reveal true identities. If similarities arise, they are due to coincidence. When information about research participants is pre sented, it is only with their permission. I have also included stories from my own life, and although the events are true, some identifying information has been changed to respect the privacy of others.

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I reviewed the final proofs for this book one week after the Septem ber 11, 2001, tragedy that befell the United States. It was difficult to refocus on the book. Not only was it hard just to concentrate, I also wondered if anything in the book could possibly still be relevant after such a lifechanging and horrible event. But as I, and countless psychologists across the nation, guided parents in how to talk with their children about the terrorist attacks, there was a consistent message: Parents should listen to children’s thoughts and feelings. This message, along with witnessing many women and men openly express their emotions during the tragedy, helped me begin to refocus on the book. Regardless of the presence of terrorism in our lives, or perhaps because of it, emotions matter and must be heard. Children are our future leaders and diplomats. So let us continue to support boys’ emotions—during times of war and times of peace.

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Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

Foreword

Contents

Acknowledgments

Introduction: The Big Picture

Why Boys’ Emotions Matter

Boys’ Socialization: The Pack Rules

Developing Boys and Their Emotions

Boys and Emotional Expression

Boys’ Empathy: A Hallmark of Emotional Health

Boys’ Anger: Alternatives to Aggression

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Chapter 7

Chapter 8

Boy Talk

For Parents: What Families Can Do

For the Other Adults in Boys’ Lives: Practical Ways to Support Boys’ Emotional Development

Resources

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Foreword

The book you are about to read offers essential practical tools for helping boys to access that often mysterious part of themselves: their emotions and feelings. ButBoy Talkdoes more than just inform. It invites you to think carefully, perhaps even differently, about boys’ emotional development. Then it inspires you to talk and listen to boys in broader ways. How does a book accomplish this? The author, Dr. Mary Polce Lynch, uses the lenses of developmental psychology and psychother apy to bring us a unique and highly practical perspective on raising healthy boys. By connecting the dots between temperament, social ization, cognitive development, and emotional intelligence skills, she shows us how to support boys’ emotional development from birth through adolescence. She also helps us see the cultural rules that can shape whether boys tell us—or even know—their feelings. There is a common but mistaken fear that supporting boys’ emotions will lessen their masculinity. This is simply not true.Boy Talkgives us all a reason to transcend this fear by challenging either/ or beliefs, such as a boy must be machoorhe’s a wimp. Indeed, boys can be both strongandsensitive, both emotionally expressiveandlogical . and still be boys.. . In addition to many helpful tools, perhaps the greatest gift of Boy Talkis that it gives us permission to talk with boys about how they’re feeling. Let this book be a guide as you choose to support

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