ACT and RFT in Relationships , livre ebook

298

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English

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2013

Écrit par
R. Martell Christopher , JoAnne Dahl , S Kaplan Jonathan , Ian Stewart

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New Harbinger Publications

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298

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2013

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 décembre 2013

EAN13

9781608823352

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

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Even if you are not a couples therapist, chances are you have dealt with clients whose problems are based in relationship issues. In order to successfully treat these clients, you must first help them understand what their values are in these relationships, and how their behavior may be undermining their attempts to seek intimacy and connection.

Combining elements of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and relational frame theory (RFT), ACT and RFT for Relationships presents a unique approach for therapists to help clients develop and experience deeper, more loving relationships. By exploring personal values and expectations, and by addressing central patterns of behaviors, therapists can help their clients establish and maintain intimacy with their partner and gain a greater understanding of their relationship as a whole.

ACT is a powerful treatment model that teaches clients to accept their thoughts, identify their core values, and discover how these values are extended to their relationships with others. RFT focuses on behavioral approaches to language and cognition, and can help clients identify their own expectations regarding relationships and how they might communicate these expectations with their loved ones more effectively.

This book aims to shed light on the thought processes behind intimate relationships—from the attraction phase to the end of intimacy—from a functional, contextual perspective.

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Publié par

New Harbinger Publications

Date de parution

01 décembre 2013

EAN13

9781608823352

Langue

English

Poids de l'ouvrage

1 Mo

“Tis is a fascinating account of love from te perspective of modern beavioral analysis. Tis book will get you tinking about yourself, your partner, and love in ways tat you probably aven’t tougt of before. It brings scientific illumination to te candle ligts of intimacy.”

—Andrew Christensen, PhD,is professor of psycology at UCLA, a cofounder of integrative beavioral couple terapy, and autor ofReconcilable Differences

ACT&RFTin relationships

Helping Clients Deepen IntimacyandMaintain Healthy Commitments Using AcceptanceandCommitment Therapy andRelational Frame Theory

JoAnne Dahl, PhD Ian Stewart, PhD Christopher Martell, PhD Jonathan S. Kaplan, PhD

CONTEXTPRESS An Imprint of New Harbinger Publications, Inc.

Publiser’s Note

This publication is designed to provide accurate and authoritative information in regard to the subject matter covered. It is sold with the understanding that the publisher is not engaged in rendering psychological, financial, legal, or other professional services. If expert assistance or counseling is needed, the services of a competent professional should be sought.

Distributed in Canada by Raincoast Books

Cover design by Amy Soup Acquired by Melissa Kirk Edited by Will DeRooy

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Contents

Foreword Acknowledgments 1Introduction to Romantic Love 2Te Roots of Our Approac 3Relational Frame Teory 4Acceptance and Commitment Terapy 5Language Traps and Self-as-Content 6Psycological Rigidity 7Valuing Intimate Relationsips 8Self-Compassion 9Couples Terapy

10Summary and Conclusions References Index

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Foreword

Dear reader, About twice a year, my usband and I take a long road trip to visit my broters and teir families. Tey always take te time to spruce up te guest room and ligt a candle for our arrival. After te fun of greeting everyone, my usband and I move our suitcases into te guest room. Eac time, as I swing te door open, I am greeted wit a warm and welcoming sign tat angs rigt above te bed: “If tere is anyting better tan to be loved, it is to be loving.” Te sign is plain and unpretentious—simple wite letters on a dark background, signed by no one. Yet its message settles in easily, like gentle snow falling on te winter ground. Creating te stuff of tis message in your clinical work—tobeloving is wat tis book is about. As coautor ofTheMindfulCouple: How Acceptance and Mindfulness Can Lead You to the Love You Want, as well as a longtime practitioner and trainer of acceptance and commit-ment terapy (ACT) and a participant in te ACT and rela-tional frame teory (RFT) community, I am deligted to introduce tis coerent and tougtful book tat marries beavior analytic science and love. Te autors provide te

ACT and RFT in Relationships

reader wit a way forward in te callenging yet fulfilling enter-prise of couples and relationsip counseling. I first met JoAnne Dal in mid-2004 at an Association for Contextual and Beavioral Science conference. Se immedi-ately struck me as someone wose work was grounded in com-passion and primarily concerned wit te “ways” of love and relationsip. But se also struck me as a person interested in science’s role in tese matters, working seriously to develop rel-evant clinical knowledge troug er position as associate pro-fessor in te department of psycology at te University of Uppsala in Sweden. And se as joined oters of similar caracter to write tis book. One of tem is Ian Stewart, a faculty member in te psy-cology department at te National University of Ireland, Galway and a longtime associate and friend, as well as a bril-liant researcer wo as brougt is talents in understanding relational frame teory to tis endeavor. Tere are many times wen I ave been truly grateful for is diligence in elping oters to understand te RFT analysis of uman language. Cristoper R. Martell, a professor at te University of Wasington in Seattle, brings fundamental knowledge to tis book wit is expertise in beavioral activation. He is an expert in tis intervention, training people to embolden temselves by taking action linked to values. And last but surely not least is autor Jonatan S. Kaplan, a clinician and adjunct professor wo writes and sares is impor-tant work on television and radio, and as been featured inO, The Oprah Magazine as well as on BBC News and MSNBC. He is invested in cultivating peace, purpose, and presence troug is work—a fitting way to round out te contributions to and development of tis book.

Foreword

Wile readingACTandRFTinRelationships, I regularly returned to and considered te notion of intimacy. Te word itself is related to te wordfamiliar, meaning “well-known.” Finding a way to be well-known in a relationsip, wit all of te fear, dread, and secrets tat can accompany tis—as well as te promise—is a unique callenge for uman beings. It is often difficult for us to be fully present to our own emotional experi-ence, let alone to open ourselves up and sare tat experience wit anoter. Indeed, te prospect of being well-known is, for some, te very barrier to love. However, Drs. Dal, Stewart, Martell, and Kaplan walk te reader troug a set of processes tat create just te space in wic intimacy in relationsip is possible. Te truly notewor-ty feature of tis book—and te basis of its utility—is te autors’ teoretical understanding of ACT and RFT and teir application to te creation of deep and meaningful relation-sips. Te autors do not take te conventional pat, wic generally explores love and intimacy as parts of a plan for self-improvement leading to a felt positive state. Rater, tey provide a beavior analytic conceptualization of love, linking tis very uman issue to a sound teoretical and scientific approac and a toroug understanding of uman language and cognition. Do not be scared away by tis distinctive part of te book. Te beavior analytic approac forms te backbone of a tecnology tat will guide im or er in te use of te intervention wile promoting maximum flexibility in te terapy room. In part 1, te autors introduce functional contextualism, basics in beavior analysis, te origins of love, and te problem of language as it relates to uman relationsip. Eac concept is presented in a digestible fasion and linked to te exploration of love and intimacy in uman connection. Te reader will find

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